So why do I love chastity? I decided to share some thoughts on why I love being a keyholder.
Chastity is such an intense and enjoyable experience for both the chastity sub and the keyholder. It’s mix of power, intimacy, tease and denial and the fun of doing something taboo (taking someone’s penis as my property!)
There are countless articles about why men like chastity (female chastity kink also exists, but it’s less common). There are not as many articles about what a female keyholder enjoys about chastity. So, I decided to write about my experience as a Domme and keyholder.
1. The Power of chastity
Taking control of a man’s cock is a very direct power exchange. He cannot masturbate, cum or get even touch his cock unless I unlock him. Once he is locked up, it is very clear who holds the power. Who is in charge. To earn his way out (or not) is something he can try, but I hold the key. I am the keyholder so I have all the power.
Even physically, it’s so intense to see how a man struggles against the cage. I love when men get hard in their cage, and it squeezes against the cage. This is a very arousing image for me as the keyholder, and one of the things I love about chastity. The physical border between his arousal and what he can do with it. Now if he wants to be allowed to cum, he must be a good boy and do what I say.
A D/s power dynamic is amplified 10 times the second I put the lock on the chastity device and take the key for myself. It’s something we both feel, immediately, and it’s so intense.
2. Mental Transformation
Putting a man into chastity is like giving his drugs. (This is true whether it’s a physical cage or just mental chastity, preventing him from masturbating). While everyone is different, overall men seem to get much hornier, much more submissive and more energized. In this time, I see my subs come up with the most intense, creative and crazy erotic scenarios and I love it! As a keyholder I love that I am the one to create this change.
I think not masturbating for weeks creates hormonal changes that ignite a man’s energy and creativity. But I see some of this mental change even in short term chastity (1-3 days). Chastity creates a mental shift. As a keyholder it’s like I am drugging him, and letting him stay high as long as I want. In this time I can get him to please me how I want.
Once you know you don’t have control over your cock, something changes in your mind. In a state of confinement you start to year for crazy things you didn’t think you would yearn for. The smallest things can make you feel turned on and give you pleasure.
3. The Secrecy of Keyholding
I love intimate feeling of putting a man into chastity, and then going somewhere together. We both know that he is in chastity, but no one else knows it.
It’s a subtle act of dominance, when we meet for a coffee and I ask him to come in chastity. I ask if he has his cage on, and he says yes. Later, when we are finally alone, and telling him to lower his pants and show me the cage. The moment that he has to undress and show me his vulnerable cock, the cock that’s under my control. I love that. It’s especially special in a romantic context, but I enjoy it in casual and non-romantic contexts as well.
I love when a man is naked and the only thing he has on is his chastity cage. The chastity cage is a symbol of my power over him. It’s like in Titanic when Rose wants a naked drawing of herself wearing a diamond necklace, and she says “I want you to draw me wearing this, only this.” Only it’s flipped because I tell him, “I want to see you wear your chastity cage – only your chastity cage.”
4. The Erotic Build Up
As a keyholder, I love seeing how the intensity build each day. It’s especially intense in men who are in chastity for over 1 week. There is a kind of roller coaster, and it’s different for each man. I love knowing that their sexual urges are raging, on fire, rising each day. I love to take advantage of this state too, making him do humiliating things and send me photos of it.
The voyeur in me loves seeing a man become desperate and depraved, ready to do all kinds of things because he’s in a heightened state of arousal. The intensity builds every day until it’s time to finally orgasm! I like to make men beg for orgasm. He know that only his keyholder can let him out, and he has to do what he can to earn freedom. When he finally gets an orgasm after a long time in chastity, it’s like a spiritual experience. Pure rapture.
Join my Locktober Bootcamp!
Since Locktober is starting soon, I’ve decided to created a Chastity Bootcamp! It is a one month event where you can sign up and receive chastity coaching from me, your virtual keyholder! This is a one month only event, for October 2023. If you want to do Locktober but don’t have a keyholder, I can coach you and hold you accountable. I cannot take physical keys, but I will ask you to put your key away, out of reach.
The tiers range from $5 to $40 and as a member of my Bootcamp, you will get daily reminders to stay chaste, special tasks, audio files, and if you’re in the top tier, I will evaluate your locked cock in a special voice note! Join the bootcamp here: Locktober Bootcamp with HypnoVictoria