Visiting a sex worker isn’t limited to just paying for sex, it’s about sexual wellness, exploration and human connection. It’s about pursuing your most human desires, whether they’re animalistic, spiritual, taboo or the fundamental need to be seen. I’ve met so many people who’ve told me visiting a sex worker transformed their life. They finally explored a fetish they were afraid to pursue and the sex worker unlocked a new part of them, changing them forever. Many of my own clients have told me that my Femdom hypnosis has altered them in ways that they are forever grateful for. Sex workers have a set of skills that almost no one else will ever offer you, and it change your life for the better.
What is sex work? Who are sex workers?
Sex workers’ trade involves creating sexual or sensual arousal for someone else. This can include sex acts (from a hand job to full sexual intercourse), however it can also be just visual. Strippers or exotic dancers are sex workers who provide an erotic experience for the viewers, sometimes without every touching them. A pro Domme (also known as a Dominatrix) can simply point at you, command you around and humiliate you, without touching you. Cam performers can create enticing, sexual performances over cam, and erotic hypnotists use their voice to alter your sexuality. In all these cases, sex workers create some kind of mental, sensual or arousing experience for you.
Maybe there should be a more broad term than sex work to capture what it means to work in the erotic arts. For instance people who create sex toys, latex clothes, kink furniture or who write erotica are all working in the erotic arts. Usually these people aren’t considered “sex workers” but they also contributing to the sexual wellness of others.This goes to show that people can channel their energy into creating amazing things and experiences that other people get pleasure from.
Paying for Social Contact
In Japan there is an industry for paying people for social contact. You can pay someone pretend to be your boyfriend when you visit your family, hire someone as wedding guest, or just pay someone to be your friend for a few hours. I personally think this is a much needed industry that could have a lot of benefits. Some people however have a lot of negative reactions to this, because it isn’t “authentic.” Similarly a lot of people respond to sex work negatively, because they see it as “fake.” The thing is, it’s not a fake interaction, it’s simply a different kind of interaction. In the same way that you like to get a massage from a loved one, you might still decide to pay for a professional massage. That person has different skills and will give you a different experience.
So why would you want to rent a friend? Maybe you want to practice your social skills with them. Perhaps you want to practice talking about yourself with someone you know won’t judge you. Maybe there is an event you want to attend. None of your friends want to go to, but you don’t want to go alone, why not rent a friend? This kind of service gives you a high quality, short term experience with someone who is guaranteed to be accepting and friendly towards you. Hiring a sex worker is similar: for a few hours you can have a safe social experience with someone who won’t judge you.
Why hire a sex worker?
If there is something specific you want to experience where it’s sexually or psychologically you can hire a sex worker. Sex workers are professionals who will craft an experience that is special to you. Because this is their trade, they will treat your desires with respect. You know with certainty that the sex worker won’t make fun of you or gossip about it with others. The professional aspect of this interaction makes it low risk.
Fetish Fulfillment
If you have secret fantasies and you want to explore them in a safe way you can hire a sex worker. Phone sex, cam or real time sessions can let you indulge in a fantasy that you are curious about. Maybe you have a fetish that your partner isn’t interested in, say golden showers. Instead of trying to push your partner to do it or denying yourself, you can hire a Pro Domme who specializes in golden showers. You get the mental release of enjoying your fetish, without putting pressure on yourself or your partner.
Sex workers create human connection
You can have a momentary but very real social connection with a sex worker. If you haven’t been touched in a long time, you may feel that your need for touch isn’t met. Human touch isn’t only physically pleasurably, according to research at Berkeley, it’s also good for our mental health. Getting an erotic massage or a sexual service from a professional is one way to address your need to be touched and to feel sensuality and human warmth.
On a mental dimension, people want to feel seen. Maybe inside, you are submissive and need to serve, a you have animalistic urges and want to be a dog, or you’re secretly a cuckold. Eventually you want to express your inner self to someone in a safe way, where you can fully unleash your urges. Unleashing these desires with a sex worker or pro Domme can give you the safe space to explore these needs.
Sex workers provide new experiences
Maybe you’ve never had a relationship, or never had sex and you’re very nervous about doing it. A sex worker can help you by going on a date, having sex, or giving you the girlfriend experience for a few days. You can get the experience you’re looking for without feeling nervous or scared. In the process you might learn some social skills or sexual skills that you can use in your future relationship. I see so many virgin men on the internet worry about never having sex. The obvious solution is to visit a sex worker and get this experience, so finally you can stop worrying about it.
In kink, there are endless new experiences you can get with a pro Domme. She will know how to create your fantasy, and maybe even plant new ones. For instance if you love small penis humiliation, you might not know all the ways a Domme can push this fantasy. But she’s done it so many times, she knows how to play with this fantasy better than you can imagine. Your new sexual experience might transform you, and transform your life as you uncover new sides of yourself. As you explore your sexuality in a safe setting, you can let go of fears or self judgment and let yourself flourish.
An addition to your social life, not a replacement
Sex workers can give you additional, unique social experiences. When it’s a paid service, you both benefit. If all is going well, you have a clear client-professional relationship. You don’t have to wonder what you should do in return, or how you can get this experience again. The formula is simple – you pay the sex worker for their time, and they give you this experience. You don’t have to replace all your social interactions with paid interactions. You can simple pay for a special experience from time to time. Remember, when you visit a sex worker, be respectful and show your gratitude to the sex worker. Tell them how much their service means to you! Have you visited a sex worker before? Maybe now is the time to try it. A sex worker might transform your life.
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