If you have a long distance submissive or slave, one way to enjoy your D/s dynamic is to give long distance tasks. You don’t have to be in the same room as your sub to have a D/s dynamic! (Also check out my advice on how to do long distance chastity.)
If you are used to having your slave literally at your feet, you might need to spend time thinking this over. Think about what tasks would be fun gor you sub, fun for you and what would be useful for you.
The best tools to get the most out of your long distance submissive are internet connection and a webcam. But don’t worry, you can enjoy a long distance D/s dynamic without these tools too. I’ve used some online submissives without ever using a webcam. I’ve had many long distance submissives over the years and I’ve found special ways to use each and every sub!
Side Note: You might notice that the tasks on this list are oriented more towards male submissives. That is because the majority of my long distance submissives have been men, but the tasks can easily be done by anyone of any gender.
Fun Tasks for a Long Distance Submissive
- Give you submissive a writing task – Get him to write you a letter about his small penis, a poem about your power, or he can write an erotica with your favorite themes. I once had my sub pick three things off my fetish list on my fetlife and I made him write an erotica about it. I really love to see the kinds of erotic ideas people have when I am in their mind and they are trying to craft the perfect story for me.
- Submissive art – Your slave can make an alter to honor you, or maybe just draw a little drawing using his semen. It doesn’t have to be serious art, it can be a cute drawing of a slave wearing a little cock cage. Things like this can really warm you up when you’re in a long distance dynamic. Subs have sent me artistic photos, drawings, and hand made cards with their submissive words written inside.
- Sending Gifts – The gift can be anything that’s easy for your sub to get. A little box of chocolates, a bottle of their tears, perhaps an envelop of their eyelashes mixed with flower petals. Your sub can send over a chastity key along with a bag of coffee. Amazon gift cards or Amazon wish lists are common ways for Dommes to receive gifts, but even something small can be an act of devotion. Something as simple as a postcard with a special message can be a nice gift.
- Use your sub for entertainment – Humiliate your sub over cam or make him send embarrassing photos. Control his bluetooth butt plug long-distance while making him read poetry to you. Watch him shoot cum into his own mouth. These are just the first few thoughts that come to mind when I think back to how I’ve used my sub boys before. (A more in depth post on webcam humiliation coming soon).
- Use your sub’s computer skills – Give your sub the task of finding new movies, music, recipes, art, porn that you would like. Get them to pirate music for you, complete research tasks, find websites you need. Make them subscribe to and like your youtube channel (if you have one).
Useful Tasks for a Long Distance Submissive
6. Use your sub’s intellectual skills – I have had long distance submissives teach me musical instruments, help me learn to code my website, do video editing for me, optimize my SEO, and other technical tasks. There’s probably something your submissive knows how to do that can be of use to you.
7. Kinky skill training – Make your sub practice body worship skills by licking their own hand. Other skills your sub can practice include: practicing massage, acting like a dog, licking their own genitals, etc. Make your sub practice once a day or as much as your heart desires. You can give your sub homework. For instance you can make him read a book on sensual massage and make him report what he learned each chapter. Make him tell you how he will use these skills when you’re together.
8. Have you sub sing you to sleep – Or maybe they can read a long poem, or the Illiad. Sometimes, the sound of someone’s voice can really help you sleep. This is the only task on the list that I haven’t done yet. I’ve wanted to do it but I haven’t found a submissive with the right voice for it yet. Your sub can also record voice messages or songs and send them to you, if you’re in different timezones.
9. Make your slave bow to you over cam- This isn’t exactly a task, it’s more of a protocol. Get your slave in their proper position – on the floor, on their knees. This is a good, basic way to receive devotion.
10. Use your submissive for your own orgasm- Yes, even in a long distance relationship you can do it! Make your submissive read your favorite erotica to you, or touch themselves. Make your slave moan over cam if that makes you horny. Give instructions to your slave to do whatever makes you horny! The task can also be just to sit still and watch you have the orgasm while he ignores his own penis. This is a good way to remind him your orgasm is more important than his.
Advanced Long Distance D/s!
11. Pain and endurance tasks- If pain is part of your D/s dynamic, you can do this long distance easily. Make your long distance submissive do pushups while you watch. Or make him put ice cubes against him balls while he twist his own nipples. There are so many kinky toys available that he can use on his own, like nipple clamps or a pinwheel. The possibilities are endless.
12. Micro-managing- You can choose what your submissive wears, when they are allowed to orgasm and what they eat. You can even choose when they are allowed to use the bathroom. If you want to be strict, you can demand photo evidence that they are fulfilling these tasks. This is an advanced task, for advanced long distance slaves!
13. Practical tasks- Are there emails you need someone to respond to? Paperwork that needs to be done? Groceries that need to be ordered? Maybe you need someone to file your taxes? Use your submissive for these tasks!
14. Brainwash you slave – it’s not really a “task” but it’s certainly easy to do long distance. Hypnosis and brainwashing are an easy way to maintain control over your submissive without even trying. Ironically I usually don’t give this as a task. My submissives usually listen to my hypnosis files and eagerly contact me asking for tasks and asking me to brainwash them further.
The possibilities are really endless. The question is, what do you want from your long distance submissive? Sit down and think of a list, and tell your sub to remind you of all his special skills! Once you know you can dominate someone from miles away, the ideas will come naturally.