Domination is like a delicious dessert that comes in many flavors. A Domme can seek control of your mind, body and soul. Knowing the different types of domination types can help you understand what you truly seek. After years of being in the BDSM scene, I see 4 main types of domination that Dommes use to overpower their subs. Let’s begin by clarifying what it means to dominate:
Dominate – To control, govern, or rule by superior authority or power.
Every dominant has their own preferred domination type or style, which can be a mix of some or all of these. I personally engage in every type and find them all rewarding, but I do have my favorite realm of domination.
Physical Domination
Physical domination is the most straight-forward. It involves taking control of a sub’s body through restraint, pain, and physical sensation. Submissives can enjoy the lack of control that comes from restraint and bondage. Meanwhile a Domme gets the pleasure of having total control over her helpless sub’s body.
In addition to bondage, pain and punishment also fall into this category. A submissive who wants pain and punishment gives up control of their body. They don’t have control over the sensations they will feel. A Domme gets to control that sub’s physical experiences. She can push them into a more and more vulnerable place through pain and intense sensations. Playing with pain can even become intense enough to become mental domination. Intense pain can release a flood of endorphins that make the sub feel drunk and intoxicated.
Sensual Domination
Sensual domination to me means being in control of someone’s pleasure. Being a Domme is not only about discipline and punishment, it can be very much about giving (and withholding) pleasure from a sub. Putting a submissive into chastity, and occasionally allowing him to orgasm is a way to control a sub through pleasure. By taking control of a sub’s orgasms, a Domme has a tasty treat to dangle in front of a sub. Tease and denial also falls into this type of domination.
A sensual Domme is skilled at using pleasure as a tool. If a sub absolutely loves foot worship for instance, a Domme uses this, allowing the sub to worship, kiss and lick her feet. She’ll stop just before he’s satisfied and remind him that he is lucky to have this opportunity. She will remind him – if he wants this again, he’ll need to work for it. Pleasure is a great motivator!
Mental Domination
Mental domination involves taking control of a submissive’s mind, or some aspect of their mind. This domination type is a vast realm of possibilities. That’s why I savor it! A few exchanges between a Domme and her submissive can create an unimaginable feeling of devotion in the sub, and power in the Domme. Just a glance or a phrase can be a form of mental domination.
A common example is using titles like “Sir” and “Mistress” to address a dominant. The flipside of this is when the dominant uses a degrading term to address their sub. Using these terms over and over creates a very strong power imbalance in the minds of both people.
Using strong emotional responses is also a form of mental domination. Humiliation, degradation and objectification are all ways in which a Domme exercises her power over a submissive. Being able to send someone into a state of shame shows them who is control.
Alongside these techniques, hypnosis is also a great form of mental domination. It can range from soft and subtle suggestion to full brainwashing. Hypnosis always involves opening someone’s mind and influencing it. With enough hypnosis a Domme can plant new fetishes, modify behavior and transform someone into the perfect sub.
Spiritual Domination
Spiritual domination is the type of domination that centers on devotion. I use the word “spiritual” loosely to mean having power and control over someone’s energy, time, focus. Without necessarily giving up control of their mind or body, a submissive can want to devote himself to his Domme’s well being (I love those subs). They want to honor and worship her, and generally be of service.
The main motivator for the sub is a desire to please rather than give up control. Acts of service like cooking, cleaning, and helping with tasks are a pure spiritual submission. Kneeling, praising, and giving body worship with careful devotion all fall into this category. The spiritual aspect gets even stronger when addressing the dominant in terms such as “Goddess.” I love to be referred to as Queen or Goddess, because the submission from my sub comes with a deep respect for me.
This type of domination can overlap with the other types. For instance, a submissive who takes pain because it pleases his Domme is experiencing physical and spiritual domination. Addressing the dominant in spiritual terms such as “Goddess” can be a type of spiritual submission.
My Favorite Type
The realm that I personally find most intriguing is mental domination. Once I have control and influence over a sub’s mind, I can heighten the other types of domination. One its own, pain and impact play are fun, but they aren’t as exciting unless I know I can play around with my sub’s mind. I like to intermingle different types of domination in all of my relationships. As a dominant or as a submissive, ask yourself- which of these categories excites you? Let yourself develop your own idea on what it means to be dominant, or to be dominated.
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